POWER TO CHANGE

                Are you having parent trouble?

One of the biggest issues facing teenagers today is parent trouble. It just bothers the very depth of the soul.

"I mean,  I want to be me!...
I want to be free, I want to be able to hang out with my friends and do what I want so badly!
I just want freedom.
You are too controlling mum!! ....
You yell too much,  you talk too much, you monitor too much mum,  please give me a break!! "

This are the rantings of teenagers, they just think parents are all out to kill them.

On the other hand,  the teenagers don't want to let go. The thought of losing their mum or dad is killing. It is like taking a rat through a den of cats!
The truth is if our parents never gave us attention,  we would crave for it—yeah,  I know,  not too much of the attention though, but we would still crave for it. We want to be with them,  we want to be around them, we want them close to us at all times. This dichotomic emotional trip is caused by some factors; I will just be talking about one: UNDERSTANDING!
the key to every relationship lies on this. Kids have you taken your time to ask mum and dad how their childhood was?  Don't you know that you can't give what you don't have? How do you expect them to give you the best of child training if what they knew and got was the orthodox Nigeria training system?
You don't want to be spanked but that was the only way dad was corrected and mum was forced to do the chores.
The only way they knew how to was the only way they trained you.

One thing kids fail to do is to ask questions. We don't just ask,  we feel they have it all or they are just mean...wait a minute, think about it—they were kids too. The best you could do for yourself is to ask questions. it would help you understand your mum and dad. How did they grow? Did they have this and that?  It would make you more mature in acting towards them and you would have easy access to touch parts of their lives they always wanted some touch in!
 The ultimate key to control is understanding. If you understand how a system runs,  you automatically Control it. I am not in anyway saying you should control your parents,  I am just saying,  understand them and you will be better equipped to handle the situation and not look rebellious. Just know what they lacked and don't anticipate it...but trust me, they love you so much that they work their selves out for you!  Just understand them.

Next up: understanding what I am and who I am—tools to better living with parents.